moKee Birth School Online: healthy diet during pregnancy

4 min read

by Madlena Szeliga

You are growing a new human being! That’s a hard job and your body needs to be well prepared for this extraordinary task.

Fill your body with nice & heathy food during the pregnancy. A well-balanced diet will give you and your baby lots of energy.

Don’t eat for two - it’s a myth you need to do so. You can be more hungry than usual, though. Eat up to your hunger but don’t overeat.

What is your balanced diet?

A balanced diet should consist of lots of fresh fruits and vegetables. They contain a lot of fibre, which will help you to avoid constipation. Constipation of quite common during pregnancy, so eat a fair amount of fruits and veggies and drink plenty of water.

It’s also important to get enough carbohydrates. Good sources are brown bread, pasta and oats.

Remember about your proteins, too. Great sources of protein are meat o fish, but if you are vegan you can replace them with beans or nuts.


Important thing is that the meat you eat during pregnancy should be cooked through. Be careful with cold cured meats like salami or chorizo (they might contain parasites, which cause toxoplasmosis).

Avoid liver and pâté (even a vegetarian one), because they are high in vitamin A and studies show that excessive amounts of vitamin A during pregnancy can cause congenital birth abnormalities.


When it comes to fish you should have 2 portions of fish per week. This included 1 portion of oily fish, such as salmon or mackerel. Avoid deep-sea fishes like sprat fish or marlin. Good news is that smoked salmon is perfectly fine and so is sushi, but only if the fish was frozen first.

Take a look at the amount of tuna you are having. You can have 2 tuna stakes or 4 tuna cans a week.


Eggs are also a great source of protein. The safest option is to choose eggs stamped with a British Lion mark. If the eggs don’t have the stamp they have to be cooked (no running yolk allowed). Also, be careful about homemade mayonnaise.


You can also eat dairy products while you are pregnant.

  • Hard cheeses (like cheddar) are absolutely ok.
  • Soft cheeses (for example mozzarella cheese, cream cheese or cottage) are also ok as long as they are pasteurised (if they are not it should say so on the packet). Always cook unpasteurised cheese.
  • Regarding the blue cheeses - eat them only cooked.

Drink or not to drink?

When it comes to questionable drinks, it’s ok to have coffee, as most pregnant women ask about this. You can take 200 milligrams of caffeine a day. This equals about 1–2 cups of coffee. However, remember that caffeine is also in chocolate bars and fizzy drinks.

Don’t drink more than 4 herbal teas a day.


Of course, remember that alcohol is harmful to your baby. High-levels of alcohol have been researched and we know they ave great negative impact on the baby’s wellbeing. Although we are not sure about the effect of low amounts of alcohol it’s safe to say that any amount of alcohol should be avoided during pregnancy.

Some extra vitamins

You should have all your vitamins coming from the balanced diet, but there are 2 supplements recommended for pregnant women:

  • folic acid (400 micrograms a day) - you should start taking it when you are trying to conceive and then up to 12 weeks pregnant
  • vitamin D (10 micrograms a day) - all the way through your pregnancy and breastfeeding


Take care of yourself: eat well, sleep on your left side, exercise if you can and remember to have a rest!

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During the first meeting of moKee Birth School Online Autumn edition Sophie Marting was explaining how you can eat healthy during pregnancy. Here is your quick guide to well-balanced pregnant diet.

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Parenthings: The teething mystery

4 min read

by Madlena Szeliga

Oh, the teething! The ever-ongoing, neverending, mysterious phenomenon. You never know when it has started, you cannot be sure if it’s approaching. You suspect when it’s over. You welcome every tooth with joy and gratitude. One less to go.

Let’s be honest: there is no nightmare of teething. Because in order to experience any nightmare one must actually get some SLEEP.

I was a proud mother of “a baby who sleeps through the night” for around 4 months. And suddenly I become one of those “I never get any sleep” kind of mums. I didn’t know those 2 worlds are so close.

I blame the teething.

It’s been over 7 months now and it’s getting worse. Just to get you a quick overview, this was my night today:

7 pm - baby goes to sleep

10 pm - 1st feeding time

11 pm - I go to sleep (I know, too late. I’ve been telling myself this every morning!)

00:01 am - 2nd feed

1 am - 3d feed

2 am - 4th feed

3:30 am - 5th feed

4 am - there goes the 6th one (or is it still the previous one?)

6 am - GOOD MORNING - baby is up & happy


And here is he graphic represenation of the night, if you, like I, are too tired to read:

I feel that most of those feeds are just for comfort, not out of hunger. And the wake-ups are accompanied by crying and rubbing the gums quite heavily.

3 teeth are out. So much more to come yet.

I’ve been researching teething pain in order to understand how my son feels and work on my empathy and shockingly I found that medical studies showing - IT’S NOT SUCH A BIG DEAL.

Apparently, way in the past, teething was linked to all baby’s sickness symptoms, and even sometimes assign as a reason of death. This is simply because, when we don’t have other evidence we tend to think that things that occur at the same time have some casual link. And as the teething is a continuous story of babies 6 - 24 months old, any fever, diarrhoea, mood swings, and others were (and still are) believed to be just the effect of new teeth cutting their way through soft gums.

Meanwhile, a study completed in 2000, published in Pediatrics journal, shows that we, parents, are overreacting blaming it all on poor, innocent teeth.

According to researchers, there is no association between toothdays and temperature.

The situation was similar with loose stools - staff observing patients didn’t report any association between loose stools and teeth eruption.

Doctors say that the pain of teething is actually a mild one and no much different from the pain of second teeth growing. And we don’t hear about the second teething nightmares, do we?

Why do we experience all the pain, the wakeups & the fevers then? Because that’s just the reality of being a baby - they are extremely vulnerable to infections and go through growth spurts effecting in poorer mood or mild sickness from time to time.

Knowing all that I look forward to the next (what I assume will be) sleepless night with no much optimism, some understanding and a lot of hope that this will end someday. Sure helps to have an older child. You know the day will come when they have all the teeth and don’t want to wake up for kindergarten. But those two facts are in no way linked. Pure miraculous coincidence.

So have you been woken up 5 times last night? What is your WORST teething experience?

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This is one tired & sleepless parent's sad story about the teething.

The ever-ongoing, neverending, mysterious phenomenon. You never know when it has started, you cannot be sure if it’s approaching. You suspect when it’s over. You welcome every tooth with joy and gratitude. One less to go.

Can you relate?

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moKee Birth Stories: Hirek, the tale of the preemie

3 min read

by Madlena Szeliga

Madlena & Hirek birth story
28-week preemie

When the birth started I was scared as hell and somehow relieved this pregnancy was over. I was at my 28th week, not really the time for the baby to come. We were not sure if he will survive and if he does, what would be his condition. But this pregnancy was never good or happy or calm, and I had been in bed for 3 months already, including 1 month in the hospital with doctors saying they don't really know what is going to happen and how to help me.

It was an emergency c-section. I didn't know what to expect. My first birth was a perfect, fairy-tale natural one. Exactly on my due date, with the pain that I could stand, family around and lots of laughter.
Now I was alone, my partner rushed into the hospital the minute they took me to the operating room. I didn't let them take my phone away. I didn't want to lose my only connection with the safe world outside. They let me keep it under my head. I guess this is against all the procedures. I don't think I was an easy patient.

I didn't know how small he would be and how would he look. I was afraid to look. Just like when you have a wound and you don't want to see how bad it is, even though sometimes it's not that bad at all.

He cried. I was so relieved and I saw the doctors were relieved, too. They said: "This is your son" and suddenly he was a person, not a mystery anymore. They let me kiss him just once. I got to see him for 2 seconds. He was beautiful and perfect. He stopped crying when his forehead touched my cheek. That was our first and only hug for a few weeks before I was able to hold him again.
He was 2.6 Ibs and we soon realised he was quite big in comparison to his friends at Neonatal Intensive Care Unit. He was strong and healthy. He only needed help with breathing for a few weeks - but also, he was not intubated, CPAP was enough.
The sounds at NICU are scarry. It's constant beeping. It takes a while before you know which sound should alarm you.

Luckily, we didn't have any further complications. He was growing fast. Now it seems so obvious he was ok, but back then every day at noon we were entering the hospital to find out what happened through the night. You never knew.

Once, on Monday it was, I got there and he was not where he used to be. The incubator was empty. I panicked. The midwives already knew me well and they got to me immediately and said: "It's good news! He was transferred to a normal crib".
That was the happiest day of my life.
He spent 10 weeks and 1 day at the hospital.

He is a year old, just starting to walk. He is healthy and happy, and smart, and curious, and the bond we have is as strong as with my first son, whom I was able to hold and cuddle for hours, days and weeks after birth. "Mama" was his first word.
We are still experiencing all sorts of emotions, but we couldn't be prouder of him.

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This is a tale of a brave preemie named Hirek, who was born at 28 weeks. This extraordinary story starts a series of inspiring and moving birth stories by moKee and The Mindful Birth.

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Breastfeeding or not, you are a great mum!

3 min read

by Madlena Szeliga

Each baby is different and so are the mothers. While acknowledging the benefits of breastfeeding we cannot let mums who feed their babies with formula feel less of a good mum. And vice versa.


Oh, how we love to judge. It’s so nice and easy to have a strong opinion. We know best, don’t we? And we seem to think that they are usually wrong. And if by ‘they’ we mean young mothers, we can skip the ‘usually’. People tend to think they are wrong. And know nothing.

As a mum of 2 myself, I’ve heard it all - he is too hot, he is too cold. Let him cry a little (it will make him braver and more self-dependent), don’t let him ever cry (otherwise his brain will be damaged forever). He should wear a hat, he shouldn’t wear a hat. You just can’t get it right.

It’s the same with feeding. My first son was formula fed and when we’ve shared a picture of him being fed by his dad, one of the first comments we got was: “The bottle already? Where is his mom?”. It felt horrible.

A lot of close and not-so-close friends came with genius pieces of advice:

“Try harder!”

“You should drink some ginger tea.”

No one really asked, why I wasn’t breastfeeding. The truth is - neither I nor my son knew how to do it. He was (still is) very impatient and would cry if the milk was not pouring into his mount immediately. I was stressed about him not eating. One thing led to another, and the milk was gone.

This is just a bunch of judgmental things I’ve heard through the first year of his life:

“He will have a terrible immune system” - not true, really. He is the healthiest boy I know.

“He will learn to speak later than his peers” - again, they couldn’t be more wrong. He was speaking in full sentences by the age of 1.5.

“The bond between you two will not be as strong” - can’t imagine a stronger one, trust me.

“You’ve chosen the easy way” - only if you call preparing formula at 1am, and then at 4am easy.

“Mother should always do what is best for the baby. And breastfeeding is the best” - while I agree that breastfeeding is the most beneficial way to feed a baby, I have to stress this - a mother must do what is best for her & the baby. And sometimes the best she can do is to feed with love, but using a bottle.


My second son was exclusively breastfed for the first 6 months of his life. Exemplary, right? The truth is, he just knew how to do it from the very beginning and it suddenly got easy for me, too.

You would think this time there won’t be any judgmental comments in the air. But of course, there were.

Some would say: “So how much longer are you going to be breastfeeding?” with a strong suggestion that it’s high time to quit - I still am breastfeeding & he is over 1 year old.

But I’ve also heard: “I would not give up my freedom for so long” - meanwhile I feel as free as a bird, being able to go with my baby anywhere not worrying about food preparation facilities.

“You will never sleep at night” - while the studies show that breastfeeding mums get 45 minutes of sleep more each night.

“Your breasts will never look good again” - we will see about that, but I don’t really care.

And the worst one, from another mum: “I find breastfeeding repulsive” - and this is just very, very sad.


It seems like there is no right way to be a mum. You are always doing something wrong. But I really think it’s the other way round - any path you take as a mother, you can be a great one! Breastfeeding or with a bottle in your hand.

It’s very similar really. Seating in a comfy chair, with a baby looking at your face. Day and night. Every 3 hours (or less). You are being close & together.

Think about this for a while, please. And never criticise a mum, who is doing her best.

Parenthings is a series of articles for all mums & dads from one mum, who tries to stay calm no matter what, but hardly ever achieves this idealistic goal.
When you are a parent, each week brings new challenges, worries, victories, naps that came too late, nights that ended too soon and stories that will be told every Christmas from now on.
You will hear all about it. If you want to share your PARENTHINGS - write to me -

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moKee’s Ultimate Mattress Guide

5 min read

by Madlena Szeliga  

All you need to know to make sure your baby sleeps well & safe.

Your baby will spend up to 18 hours a day in their cot during the first weeks of their life. So, basically, they will LIVE on their mattress.
Choosing the right mattress is one of the most important decisions you make before your baby is born. And the choice can seem overwhelming. We created this guide to help you understand the choices and differences between different options.

Remember that a good mattress is essential for your child safety and comfort.

Step 1: Make sure it fits perfectly

This is the first, extremely important thing to check - the mattress need to fit the cot perfectly. Never buy a mattress too small or too large. There shouldn’t be any gaps or budging when the mattress is put into the cot.

The best way to ensure everything fits is to purchase the mattress together with the cot. If you decide otherwise - measure both cot and mattress yourself and check everything at home, before the baby comes.


Step 2: Safety check

There are 2 safety certificates your mattress should have:

BS EN 16890: To be granted this European Standard certificate mattress needs to meet safety requirements - both mattress bases and mattress toppers are checked.

BS 7177: To be granted this certificate, the mattress needs to pass the test for the resistance to ignition. The levels of ignition resistance have been set after careful consideration of the fire risk of the particular end-use environment involved.

moKee makes sure the mattresses we offer always have necessary certifications.


Step 3: Know your types

A good mattress can be any type, but you need to understand the difference. Here are the most common types of mattresses:

Foam: Usually made from polyurethane. Most popular baby mattress type. They tend to be lighter than coil spring mattress - so more comfortable for parents to lift while changing sheets.

If you decide to choose a foam mattress, remember - the denser, the better (and the heavier, the denser).

If you want to check if your mattress is dense you can perform a simple test: pick the mattress up, place a hand on each side in the centre, and then press your hands together. If the mattress is dense you won’t be able to press very far.


moKee innovation - Ramen mattress: Made from a high-tech food grade Japanese polymer. The structure resembles Ramen noodles, and this is where it gets its name. A woven network of firm "noodles" makes up this groundbreaking and 100% breathable mattress.

It’s key features are:

● Anti-mite & Hypoallergenic – doesn’t absorb moisture. It prevents bacteria and mites from growing.
● Safe & Eco-friendly - free from BPA, formaldehyde, and toxic substances.
● 100% recyclable and compliance with REACH.
● 11 times more breathable than a foam mattress.

Thanks to the fact that the structure of the mattress core is not solid, as in foam or coil spring mattresses it gives the feeling floating on air. Also, it makes is much safer, as the baby is able to breathe through the mattress.

The breathable air-fibre construction helps temperature regulation, it allows babies to stay dry and comfortable. It also helps to prevent rashes. All parts of the Ramen mattress are washable - including the inside. A clean mattress provides a healthy environment for a baby. Moreover, it helps to block allergic reactions.


Coil spring: This is a type of mattress, which uses a steel coil support system. It’s quite popular for adults, but we wouldn’t recommend it for babies.

It can have a different number of layers, materials used and the quality of the covering. Simplistically, the bigger the weight of coil spring, better-gauge steel and better-quality cushioning. You should look for a firm mattress, especially when shopping for a baby. It’s safer for the baby.

If you decide to choose coil spring anyway, make sure to check 2 important features:

Coil count - the number of springs or steel coils a coil spring mattress contains. In theory the bigger coil count, the better, but this is not always the case. Look for mattresses that have 135 - 150 coil count.

The gauge of the steel - this will tell you more about the firmness of the mattress than the coil count. The thicker the coils are, the firmer the mattress will be. Good steel gauge will be of 15.5 or below.

Step 4: Materials matter

This is another important aspect to consider while shopping for a perfect mattress. Check the materials. All the mattresses describe above can be a great choice, when the quality is right.

However, if you are looking for something more green - there are some all-natural mattresses on the market. They are made without vinyl or any chemical flame retardants.

moKee’s Natural Mattress is made of coconut husk & lambswool (they create the core - which is quite dense) and the softest cotton (used for cover). The coconut husk fibres make the mattress very resilient, thus safe. A cooling cotton layer helps to regulate babies body temperature.

It’s hypoallergenic - good to consider if you expect your baby might have allergies. What’s outstanding about the wool - it does not require additional chemicals to make the mattress flame resistant. So it’s Nature’s way to pass European Safety tests.


Step 5: Judge by the cover, too

The cover is the part of the mattress that is closest to your baby. So yes, it matters greatly. Different producers use 2 main types of cover: vinyl or fabric:

the vinyl cover may be tempting because you will expect all the stains to stay away. And that’s true.
the fabric cover is not stain-resistant, but it’s breathable - much more important quality when looking for a safe baby mattress.


Step 6: Can I wash it all over again?

One more thing to check. This is more for your comfort, less for baby safety, but still - quite an important point. Is the mattress you buy washable?

● The cover - if the cover is removable, you can usually wash it in the washing machine. This will be very handy, as incidents happen quite often. An all-natural mattress will not offer that. You can hand-wash the mattress. In this case - it’s best to buy a waterproof sheet straight away.
The core - usually not washable. The only exception is the moKee's innovative Ramen mattress. It can be washed clean in the shower, meaning this mattress has to be the most hygienic on the market.

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Choosing the right mattress is essential for your baby's comfort and safety. Read moKee's Ultimate Mattress Guide to know more about mattresses, their types and important features. Use the expert's advice to make sure your baby sleeps well and safe.

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8 amazing facts about breastfeeding

3 min read

by Madlena Szeliga

Breastfeeding can be hard, magical, easy, old as the earth, impossible or rewarding. But it also is surprising! We are sure, that even if you have breastfed one, five, or more babies you don’t know all the amazing facts we gathered.

Breastfeeding is like a gym & saving programme and really good health insurance packed in one.

1) Forget about the gym

Breastfeeding helps you burn 600 - 1000 extra calories a day. The calories are used to produce milk. It’s just like running for an hour.


2) Many flavours to it

Your breast milk changes according to what you ate. Its smell and taste reflect your diet. If you eat the variety of products, you will expose your baby to many new tastes and will make sure your kid is not a picky eater.


3) White is just an option

Breast milk comes in many different colours. It can be white, but also blue, green, yellow, pink, or black(-ish). Colours of breast milk rainbow:

The colostrum and transitional milk are yellow or orange.

Usually, mature milk is white.

Mature milk can naturally have a bluish tint to it like very thin skim milk.

If you eat a lot of green foods (for example spinach o seaweed) your milk can turn green.

After having a lot of beets, or eating artificial food colouring your milk can turn pink. However, pink or brown colour of your milk can also be a sign of blood in your breast milk. The reason can be simply sore or bleeding nipples, but sometimes this is a sign of more serious health problems.

Some medications, like minocycline, give your milk a slightly black tint.


4) Mind your health

Breastfeeding mums have a lower risk of developing breast cancer, ovarian cancer, heart disease, stroke, type-2 diabetes, and postpartum depression. The longer a woman breastfeeds, the lower the risk gets.

5) Save, while you can

Breastfeeding is money in the bank! You statistically save £700 a year (compared to the cost of formula - average cost per week is £13.52).

6) It’s (almost) always on the right side

3 out of 4 mothers produce more milk in their right breast. No matter if they are right- or left-handed.

7) Give yourself some more sleep

Against the common opinion studies show, that breastfeeding mums sleep on average 45 minutes more a night, than mums who feed babies with formula.

8) And it’s not that popular

Even though the benefits of breastfeeding are well known and scientifically proven, globally, only 40% of infants under 6 months are exclusively breastfed.

Would you like to know more? Listen to our podcast about breastfeeding and become an expert! Availabe on Spotify:

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Breastfeeding Week: full guide to breastfeeding

4 min read

by Becca Smith @beccasmith_tomlins

There’s so many things to think about when having a baby and a question you will often get asked when pregnant is whether you are going to breastfeed.

To be honest you probably won’t be sure until you have your baby – there’s so many factors that can impact whether you can breastfeed such as having a difficult birth, the health of your baby and your own milk production. Keeping an open mind whilst pregnant can help in managing your expectations.

I really wanted to breastfeed but when my son was born he went into intensive care because he had a traumatic birth and had low oxygen levels. So the only option was for him to be bottle fed as he was too sick to breastfeed. I also pumped, so he had my own milk and he was topped up with formula. Eventually when he was better and we came home I ditched the bottle and exclusively breastfed him for 6 months and didn’t stop breastfeeding him until 11 months.

If you can and do decide to breastfeed, here is some helpful advice. If you have any medical questions, please, do ask your health visitor or GP.

Breast milk is amazing…

Your body produces milk specifically for your baby. It’s amazing how the milk is designed just for your baby. It has incredible benefits including protecting your baby from infections and diseases.

Breastfeeding can help to reduce your baby's risk of:

  • diarrhoea and vomiting, with fewer visits to hospital as a result

  • sudden infant death syndrome (SIDS)

  • obesity

  • cardiovascular disease in adulthood

Some studies have also found that breastfeeding for at least 6 months may reduce your baby's chance of getting childhood leukaemia. But more research is needed into this. You can read more on the NHS website.

There have been numerous research into a protein found in breast milk that can kill cancer cells too. It’s your baby’s first food so it’s the first thing their gut digests. There’s research which also shows that this is important in shaping the bacteria in the gut which could help stop your baby from allergies and help support their long term gut health. Recent studies emphasize the importance of the “window of opportunity” in early life.

Breast milk can help your baby and you

There’s been a lot of studies on the benefits of breastfeeding for babies but also the impact on the mothers. Breastfeeding lowers your risk of:

  • breast cancer

  • ovarian cancer

  • osteoporosis (weak bones)

  • cardiovascular disease

  • obesity

When breastfeeding you can have skin on skin meaning you and your baby can bond and have time together. Studies have shown that breastfeeding helps you bond with your baby.

Does breastfeeding hurt?

Lots of midwives and nurses say that breastfeeding shouldn’t hurt. And if it does, it means the baby is feeding wrong or in the wrong position. My experience was that it did hurt in the first week or so but then it really didn’t and it was very easy. A nurse told me once that it probably will hurt as your breasts have never done it before. My advice is to buy lots of nipple cream – use it and use it a lot, but don’t worry, it’s normal and the pain usually goes after a few days.


It’s important to relax when feeding your baby – this will help with your milk supply. Sitting in a comfortable position will also stop you injuring yourself. Lots of pillows and indeed a nursing pillow could help- check out moKee’s Nursing Pillow or make sure you have a comfy seat in the nursery with moKee’s nursing chair!

Is breastfeeding more convenient than formula?

For me, breast milk was so much easier than formula. I could feed my sons whenever they wanted without having to sterilise bottles or boil the kettle. But some women find it difficult or hard to breastfeed so formula will be the only option or simply more convenient for them. Whatever works for you, is what is best!

Mastitis – what is it and how can I avoid it?

Mastitis is when your breast becomes red, hot and painful. It's most common in breastfeeding women and usually happens when you haven’t fed for a while and your breast can become engorged. I got mastitis with my second son and it was very uncomfortable and very painful. My son slept on my breast which caused my milk ducts to get blocked. It came on very suddenly. I felt very cold and was shivering and felt very faint. I knew almost immediately what this was and knew that I had to drain my breast of milk in order for it to get better. So I sat for 4 hours (in a toilet cubicle) and tried to get my son to feed as much as possible and I then hand pumped. It worked and I got better. If you feel like you are getting mastitis please get medical help and contact your GP.


During the first few months of motherhood you will probably be with your baby 24/7/ But there wil be times when you need to be apart. Whether it’s work, a dentist’s appointment or you want to go out and see your friends for a meal – it’s important that you feel comfortable when leaving your baby if you are breastfeeding.

For me, a pump was the most important piece of baby equipment and by pumping I was able to leave my sons with my husband and I could have a meeting or go for lunch. I used to pump and store the milk in the freezer so there would always be available milk for my sons.

What can’t I eat or drink when breastfeeding?

Breastfeeding is thirsty work so you may have to drink an additional 700ml of water every day. But now you are free to what you like apart although the same rules about fish apply. Limit shark, swordfish or marlin to one portion a week. Don’t eat more than two portions a week of fresh oily fish, but you can have as much canned tuna and white fish as you like.

When it comes to alcohol the advice from the NHS is that “an occasional drink is unlikely to harm your breastfed baby.”

They go on to say “never share a bed or sofa with your baby if you have drunk any alcohol. Doing this has a strong association with sudden infant death syndrome (SIDS).”

Share your stories of breastfeeding with us at our Instagram @wearemokee!

Listen to moKee Birth School Online podcast on Spotify and find our more about breastfeeding. Use tips & guidance from Sophie Martin, known as The Infertile Midwife.

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There’s so many things to think about when having a baby and a question you will often get asked when pregnant is whether you are going to breastfeed. Here's moKee's guide to breastfeeding and some helpful advice. Find the answers to your questions and use tips from experts!

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The 4-month sleep regression - how to survive

4 min read

by Becca Smith @beccasmith_tomlins

Here at moKee we have talked about sleep and importantly how to get as much of it as possible and making your baby sleep… well like a baby. Once those early newborn days are gone you will get into a good pattern and your baby will probably be sleeping well.

But then…

Your baby suddenly doesn’t want to sleep. Up every hour? Not going down for naps at the right time? Or at all? Fighting sleep? I bet most mother’s recognise this and it’s usually at about 16 weeks – the 4-month sleep regression.

The word regression is thrown around a lot and new mum’s talk about it a lot! Regression means “a return to a previous and less advanced or worse state, condition, or way of behaving.” And this is exactly what happens at around 16 weeks for newborns. But don’t worry as it is entirely normal and it doesn’t last forever.

What is the sleep regression?

Your baby will suddenly not want to nap or sleep through the night and this can start at any time from 3 months but usually around 4. It happens because your baby is going through a big development such as mastering rolling over. Babies are also simply more awake and are no longer a newborn. They want to see the word and are inquisitive.


How long should it last for?

The sleep regression usually only lasts a couple of weeks but make sure that you don’t pick up bad habits. Try to keep to your usual routine and your baby will quickly get back to sleeping like an angel as they once did.

Some tips for getting back to your routine

  • Don’t rely on feeding! It’s easy to rely on giving your baby a bottle of milk in the night. I did this and it got us into a whole lot of trouble. My son then relied on food and expected it in the middle of the night. Try other ways to get them to sleep such as singing them a lullaby or simply holding them and letting them drift off. This isn’t a good option either but better than feeding them more milk!
  • Don’t let your baby get overtired! Babies need 12 to 17 hours of total sleep, including night time and naps. So if your baby is up most of the night try to give them some rest in the day – you don’t want to swap night with the day but an overtired baby simply will struggle to go to sleep.
  • Routine, routine, routine! Stick to your routine and your baby will remember it and look for those cues for bedtime. Remember, the 3 B’s. Bath, book, bed. This has always been our routine in our household and it still is even with my eldest almost 5. Whatever works for you, but stick to it!


Will it happen again?

Yes! Babies go through many sleep regressions. At 8 months your baby will probably regress with their sleep because they are developing quickly now. They’re learning to crawl, their learning to feed themselves and they’re probably trying to pull themselves up and cruise.

And again at 9 months and 10 months they will probably regress. I remember sleep between 8-12 months wasn’t great but in the middle of the night when you are tired and emotional just remember that it doesn’t last forever and everything is just a phase. My 20-month-old now sleeps solidly for 12-13 hours and a few months ago I wouldn’t have thought that could be possible!

Just remember to stick to what works for you and don’t get worried about it. It’s all very normal and nothing lasts forever. What are your sleep tips you want to share with other moKee Mums? Let us know in comments!

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Coronavirus: a self-help guide for postnatal depression

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by Becca Smith @beccasmith_tomlins

We are thankfully all more aware of the term ‘postnatal depression’. Thanks to society being more open and transparent we hear from many important public figures who talk candidly about their depression after giving birth. And there’s a lot of support out there for mothers, much more than what was available just a decade ago.

There’s no doubt that right now with the global pandemic, births are just not the same experience as they used to be. There is evidence that suggests depression could be higher in mothers due to the coronavirus’ impact on births. Partners only being able to come for the last stages of labour, limited visiting hours and having limited time in hospital. These can all have an impact on any woman who has just given birth.

One in five women will experience post-natal depression and it’s important to recognise the signs. Whether you are worried about your own mental health or a partner or friend, it’s important to get help. The NHS has a brilliant website which explains where you can get help in your area.

What is postnatal depression?

It’s different for every woman and can impact them in many ways, It can start at any time, from the moment you give birth. This may develop slowly or come on pretty quickly.

There is a difference between feeling down and having post-natal depression. I definitely got the ‘baby blues’ when many women feel tearful, anxious in the first week of giving birth. This is very common and I put this down to feeling very, very tired. Labour is labour – tiring. So if you start to feel blue, make sure you are getting enough rest and ask for help. ‘Baby Blues’ won’t go on for more than 2 weeks but if it does, seek help as this could be the beginnings of Postnatal depression.


The main symptoms include:

  • a persistent feeling of sadness and low mood,
  • loss of interest in the world around you and no longer enjoying things that used to give you pleasure,
  • lack of energy and feeling tired all the time,
  • trouble sleeping at night and feeling sleepy during the day,
  • feeling that you're unable to look after your baby,
  • problems concentrating and making decisions,
  • loss of appetite or an increased appetite,
  • feeling agitated, irritable or very apathetic,
  • feelings of guilt, hopelessness and self-blame,
  • difficulty bonding with your baby with a feeling of indifference and no sense of enjoyment in their company,
  • frightening thoughts – for example, about hurting your baby; these can be scary, but they're very rarely acted upon,
  • thinking about suicide and self-harm.

Where can I get help?

In the UK, the first point of call in seeking help is your GP or health visitor. They can listen to your feelings and discuss the best way forward for treatment. Mind is a great charity which offers a lot of advice and help too. Post Natal Illness is a organisation run by people who have suffered from postnatal depression. The Mental Health Organisation has in-depth information for people who suffer and also for friends and family too.

The impact of COVID - 19

There are amplified risks of depression during this time simply by not seeing friends and family as much, it means it can be for some a very isolating time. There is, of course, the risk of the virus. Some parents will feel increased anxiety around this and want to make sure that their newborn does not catch it. It’s important to make sure you express these feelings to health visitors.
Not having your parents to come and see the new baby can be really very upsetting. Also from a practical level – you won’t have as much help. In the very early weeks of my first son’s birth, my parents and my in-laws were very supportive in helping me to care for him and giving me rest. If you cannot see loved ones but they want to help why don’t you suggest they cook some meals for you and leave them on your doorstep? Food is very important after birth, especially if you are breastfeeding so it’s a really helpful way for loved ones to help from afar.

It’s important to talk about emotions accompanying pregnancy and after you have your babies - particularly important at this time with Coronavirus and the restrictions this pandemic has had on birth and pregnancy. We've invited Lucy Cavendish, the experienced psychotherapist, to join moKee Birth School online and talk about the emotions accompanying pregnancy. Listen to moKee's podcast on emotions accompanying pregnancy and how to deal with them.

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One in five women will experience post-natal depression and it’s important to recognise the signs. Whether you are worried about your own mental health or a partner or friend, it’s important to get help. The chances of getting postnatal depression during a lockdown are much higher. This article aims to help new mums get through the COVID-19 lockdown.

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