moKee Birth School online:
being a Doula

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by Suzi Smith  

 

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Hazel from TwinningitUK, talks to the moKee Birth School Online about being a Doula.

 

WHAT IS A DOULA?

A Doula is a trained person (non-medical) who is brought in to help support the woman and family at the time of birth and post-birth. The Doula’s aim is to do whatever is possible to make the whole family have the best experience when it comes to birth and to enjoy those precious moments. Since the lockdown , the majority of the work is carried out virtually as Doulas aren’t currently allowed into hospitals or people’s homes during labour or in the postnatal period.

The old saying goes, “it takes a village to raise a child” so now in lockdown it’s harder than ever. People are having babies and all they have is the person that they live with to support them. There are no visits to the clinics, no baby groups. I am finding that more than ever, people are needing that extra support.

A Doula is not medically trained and doesn’t give medical advice, they are not there to deliver the baby. They offer evidence-based information to families and help cut through things that are not evidence-based, such as people basing information on experience rather than evidence.

As an example, a Doula will give you evidential information about the facts around having a vaginal birth after a c section or they can signpost you to relevant information that may be needed. They’ll look at the facts rather than what happened to a friend.

When it comes to birth, lockdown aside, Doulas can be present at the birth of your baby. The role of a Doula is to help and support the mother and to support the family. The role of the Doula is not to take away anything from your partner. If the partner feels worried about being pushed away during the birth, reassure them that a Doula is there to enhance their experience too.

Doulas are trained in relaxation techniques, massage techniques and setting the mood in the room and holding the space. Having a Doula present means that they can enhance the experience of the mother and her partner. A Doula can do simple tasks such as go and get refreshments so that the woman is never left alone and the partner can stay present with her. It’s a key thing and back to lockdown, women are going to the hospital on their own and lots of hospitals say that the birth partner doesn’t come until the woman is in established labour which is really tough.

If it’s your 1st or 10th birth and you have worries, the Doula’s role is to signpost you where you can find the information about your birth. A Doula can help you plan your birth wish list and during labour (with your permission) they will tell the Doctors and Midwives what you’d like if you’re unable to communicate.

Post-natal, Doulas may visit the first day a family is back to help them find their feet within their new family dynamics. It’s a big change. A Doula’s role is not to look after the baby, that’s for a maternity nurse or the parents. A Doula is there to empower you, show you how to do something, make sure everyone is comfortable and sometimes they’ll even cook for you! They’ll help you navigate feeding the baby, changing the nappies, etc... but remember that they are not there to do it for you, they are there to empower you.

Doulas are usually on call from 38 weeks and right up to 10-14 days overdue. You draw up a contract on expectations because generally when you go into labour you want to know all of the details before and what they’ll be doing to help you.

QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS

How expensive are Doulas?
Doula’s start from around £500 for attending a birth and some postnatal support may be included in that but postnatal support is usually extra but this is all written into the contract. Doulas can charge more, depending on their level of experience and what they’ll be doing for you.

When should you start looking for a Doula?
Start doing research around 5 months into pregnancy. Arrange interviews with them. There are some excellent Doula websites, for example, Nurturing Birth or Doula UK, go on their website and go through Doula profiles. You need to gel with that person. You will remember that person forever so ensure that you connect with them. Meet up with a few, even if for a 30-minute coffee to see if you can both work together.

Do Doulas only assist hospital births or can they do home births?
Doulas can help with hospital births and home births. Doulas never deliver the baby, that’s the job of a Midwife or Doctor. In the States and Europe, Doulas are very common for someone to have. It’s quite new in the UK still but is certainly much more talked about in the past few years and the value of a Doula is beginning to be really recognised.

Can you have a Doula for the first two days at home?
Normally you’ll have a Doula for a few hours after birth. A Maternity Nurse is someone who can stay with you 24/7 and look after the baby. However, some Doulas may be willing to stay for longer periods of time with you. This is something you should try and discuss before the birth and have drawn up in your contract.

From your experience, what would recommend to have in your hospital bag? (Must have's) there are a lot of different views.
Snacks for yourself are very important. In warm weather have a cool spray. Something that you like the smell of that is comforting. Your favourite music, a book because labour can be long and boring! A pillow from home is the ultimate essential!

What if my baby is late?
You’ll be on call up to an agreed time after your due date. It is worth considering having the option of shared Doula support. This means that if you go well beyond your due date and beyond the time that was agreed with your primary doula, then you could have access to another Doula to support you.

What if the Doula doesn’t make it to the birth? Do I still pay?
Some babies come really quickly and you can’t get there in time. When you sign up, a retainer fee is paid. ALL Doula contract agreements are different so you may still be liable to pay the balance. However, it may be worth discussing if the doula can offer you some additional postnatal support in place of being unable to attend the birth (for reasons beyond anyone’s control).

Can they give feeding advice?
Yes, Doulas will have basic feeding knowledge and can help advise on feeding. However, if you are having feeding issues then they will likely refer you to a breastfeeding specialist if it is not something that can be quickly addressed with doula support.

I’ve heard doulas reduce the risk of intervention. Is this true?
Yes, research shows that having a Doula present can reduce the risk of Caesarean/instrumental birth. Research has also shown that it can reduce the need for painkillers or epidural and also a reduced rate of induction of labour. Research also shows an increased likelihood of successfully establishing breastfeeding. There are a wealth of benefits of having a Doula. Not just for emotional support, but for physical benefit also.

Can I have a Doula for my c-section?
Yes, absolutely. Doulas can definitely be present for a caesarean (so long as the hospital are ok with this). A Doula will be up to speed with caesarean research so she can be there to ensure that you have the best c-section experience. More and more options are becoming available now for C-sections, such as gentle caesareans, delayed cord clamping and much more which has shown to have benefits to both mother and baby. A doula will be able to advise you where you can find more information on this and what questions you may need to ask.

Did you consider having a Doula during your birth? How much does it cost? What are the advantages? How having a Doula can help you? Hazel, also known as The Twinning It UK, as the quest of moKee Birth School online explains what a Doula is and answers to the most common questions to help you understand its role. Find out more now!

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moKee Birth School online:
questions & answers on what after birth

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by Madlena Szeliga

Here you both (or more!) are - getting to know each other. Days & nights run without a clock, they are intense but magical. You both need to recover and learn your new roles. Everything is new, even if this is your 5th baby! You are the first & only mummy for them.
Here we gathered all the baby care & breastfeeding related questions, our participants asked during the latest Q&A session at moKee Birth School Online. We also included some questions about after birth recovery. Sophie Martin, qualified midwife (aka The Infertile Midwife) answered them all for you.

Really common to get varicose veins during pregnancy. It depends how bad the veins are, but often if they are very large, then they won’t go away after pregnancy. If you still have them at your 6 weeks check-up, mention it to your GP.

My biggest advice is to take it slowly. An old mentor told me that when you have a baby you should try and spend a week in bed and a week on the sofa. Great advice as you need to rest. If you had an operation you wouldn’t be up and about straight away, but I think people forget that when they have a caesarean. Now don’t lay down for 24 hours a day, make sure sure you do get up and stretch your legs. But rest as much as possible. No cooking and cleaning, walking the dog. Don’t lift anything heavier than your baby- if you have a toddler have a conversation that mummy can only hold the baby. Pelvic floor exercises must be done too and are really helpful. Just listen to your body and importantly get air to the wound.

I am not able to recommend this, as there isn't enough evidence to support it.

Just vitamin D.

Meconium is super sticky, thick and black but you just need warm water and cotton wool. Nothing extra.

Washing eyes? Yes. But regular bath water is fine for giving the baby a bath. Check the temperature with elbow or wrist.

Babies should be kept out of direct sun exposure. It is safe for your baby to wear suncream.

Tummy Time is where you put your baby on their tummy for short periods whilst they are awake. I usually recommend doing this on a mat on the floor but making sure the baby will be safe. This will help them increase their muscle strength.

Yes, great idea. A great way to practise the skil l- great to have some saved up, as it is liquid gold. I wouldn’t start too early before 36 weeks. But from then onwards it’s fine.

If you are planning on exclusively breastfeeding, then try to do exactly this - exclusively breastfeed. But if you want to give extra expressed milk, you can cup feed your baby and there are great videos online- the baby laps the milk so doesn’t suck. Nipple confusion comes from teats. So if you are wanting to give them extra milk and trying to avoid using a bottle, I would recommend cup feeding.

If you are planning on breastfeeding exclusively, it isn’t recommended to use bottles. However, if you are planning on mixed feeding, my main advice would be to make sure you are super happy with the latch first. If the baby is still struggling with latch, introducing a bottle is confusing for their latch. If you are feeling confident with the latch, then it could be time to introduce a bottle.

A baby will always be checked for tongue-tie after birth. Sometimes it is really obvious and sometimes really difficult to diagnose tongue-tie. A lot of babies with tongue-tie will feed absolutely fine. So initially if we suspect tongue tie, we wait to see whether the breastfeeding can be established, and assess them over a few days. If they have tongue-tie and can’t feed they would get a referral to a specialist. A lot of people assume you can’t feed tongue-tied babies but it is about individually assessing your baby.

Limit your caffeine. Be mindful about alcohol too. Alcohol does pass through breastmilk, so be mindful of consumption. In terms of foods, there are no food restrictions whilst you breastfeed. Some foods like spicy food, garlic, for example, can change the taste of breast milk but that shouldn’t put baby off.

Paracetamol, codeine and ibuprofen are all considered safe. With other medication, please check with a pharmacist, doctor or midwife.

Take all of this with a pinch of salt, I don’t think having a small amount of peppermint tea will do too much harm.

I did the session which you can read back at moKee’s website (available HERE) and there are great videos on global health media website – the WHO breastfeeding website. It has videos on hand expressing, attaching babies to the breast. La leche league, the national breastfeeding helpline are all really useful too – the community midwife will be helping you too. And there is the ‘off to the best start’ leaflet.

Listen to moKee Birth School online on Spotify. Now available as a podcast too!

by Madlena Szeliga

Here you both (or more!) are - getting to know each other. Days & nights run without a clock, they are intense but magical. You both need to recover and learn your new roles. Everything is new! Read the most common questions on what after birth and find out the answers from Sophie Martine, the experienced midwife.

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moKee Birth School online:
questions and answers on labour

4 min read

by Madlena Szeliga

This is the day you've been longing for and fearing the most. You are going to meet your baby, but first - you need to give birth. Things may go just like you planned, but they might also surprise you. Don't worry! Ask all the questions you want. Now, and when the day comes.
Here we gathered all the labour related questions, our participants asked during the latest Q&A session at moKee Birth School Online. Sophie Martin, qualified midwife (aka The Infertile Midwife) answered them all for you. They cover all the topics - from what to wear to pain during labour.

I’m not familiar with this app. However, there are many hypnobirthing products available. Cds, downloads, books etc I recommend starting hypnobirthing as soon as possible, as practice makes perfect.

I would always say lip balm, as your lips can get dry - especially if using gas and air. Snacks - super important for you and your birth partner. I recommend packing a drink that isn’t water - something like an isotonic drink. Toiletries, maternity pads, big knickers and a couple of nighties or PJs. You also must pack things for baby, clothes, nappies, cotton wool, etc.

Wear whatever you like - there are always gowns available if you don’t want to wear your own clothes. With an epidural, doctors will need to get to your back so they will get you to pop into a gown so they can have open access to your back. But on the whole, wear what you fancy! I wouldn’t recommend buying anything new to wear for the birth, as it may get ruined.

Whatever you like. No clothes - that's fine. Don’t be embarrassed. Some women choose a bikini and when closer to the time take the bottoms off. Or a t-shirt. Whatever you are comfortable in. As long as you can take the bottoms off- so the baby can come out! For birth, in general, wear what you like!

It is good for pain relief, you are less likely to ask for other pain relief options. That feeling of weightlessness and warmth helps. It is usually only recommended for low-risk women though, so any high-risk complications it wouldn’t be recommended. We can’t protect the perineum though when you give birth. So if you want that to happen you can pop out of the pool. If you get in too early it can slow down the labour. We usually try different positions to get labour back up again. If you don’t like it you can just get out. It is a good form of pain relief.

No - you can’t have both of these. But you can get in the pool and if you need more pain relief you’ll get out before having an epidural.

When pregnant your uterus is like a balloon- the placenta doesn’t take up the whole of the uterus. When you have an anterior placenta, it is at the front, but at the top of the uterus. The incision for the caesarean is very low, near your bikini line, so won’t be near the placenta.

We wouldn’t recommend a caesarean based on the head size alone. If your baby’s weight is over the 95th centile, then you should have an appointment with a doctor. The most important thing to remember is that most women will only grow a baby big enough for them unless they have pregnancy complications like diabetes. The position of the head is very important, we want their head to be flexed, not extended.

Size is difficult to assess without working out the centile using a personalised growth chart. If 9lb 10 is above the 95th centile, then it would be recommended for you to have some growth scans during this pregnancy. If she was less than the 95th centile, then you won’t need to have any growth scans unless there are concerns about the size of this baby.

When the placenta is sat on top of the cervix this is known as placenta praevia. Sometimes it will be fully over it or just a little bit. If it is fully coving cervix it is unlikely to move at this stage. You will have scans to check the position of the placenta. With placenta praevia, the only option is for caesarean section.

A balloon induction is what we call mechanical induction. Hormonal inductions are where midwives give you drugs. The balloon tries to physically open the cervix. With the balloon induction you will have a tiny tube inserted through the cervix and on either side of the cervix, now remember the cervix is like a tube and there would be a balloon of water that sits at the top and one at the bottom. At my hospital we are only doing a balloon induction as there are loads of pros – they keep the babies happier - There are fewer cases of foetus distress. It is also far more comfortable to mums. Not painful whereas hormonal inductions you have contractions. So for midwives, we are seeing lots of pros. It doesn’t fail very often. If it doesn’t work we can then move to hormonal drugs so there’s still a chance of labour.

It depends on whether the hospital offers this service and whether you are suitable, so please check with your midwife.

Some research suggests that placentas don’t function well for IVF pregnancies after 40 weeks. This research looks at IVF pregnancies altogether - it doesn’t acknowledge that there are many different reasons that couples need IVF.

The first baby usually engages earlier than second babies, although there is no set time. To do this, open your legs very wide. Open your knees very wide. Stop crossing your feet and knees. If you cross your feet and knees it closes your pelvis. Walking up and down the stairs sideways like a crab is a good way, or sitting on a birthing ball.

Second babies engage later, and sometimes don’t engage until labour Not everyone notices that the baby is engaged, it is not always noticeable. But vaginal heaviness or feeling pressure can be a physical symptom or noticing the bump drop.

I love a TENS machine - they’re brilliant. They’re electric nerve stimulation and the way they work is they block the pain receptors. Put them on as early as you can in labour. When you start to feel uncomfortable pop it on. You can buy or rent them. Make sure you get new pads. You must put them on early. Don’t wait until full-blown labour. Get them on when you first feel uncomfortable.

When you are getting close to labour you could have it ready. You could go into labour anytime from 37 weeks onwards. If you have it beforehand you can play around with it so you know how to use it and get it all ready, so from 36 weeks would be a good idea.

PCA is patient-controlled analgesia - some hospitals use this method for their epidural, and others so don’t. So ask your midwife what sort of epidural they give.
A walking epidural is where you are given slightly milder medication which means you can still walk around whilst using the epidural. Other hospitals will give stronger medication which will make your legs very heavy, and therefore making walking more difficult.

Nursing bras are great but if you want to do skin to skin - it doesn’t work. You will have material where the baby needs to be touching you. They definitely have a time and a place- might be handy when popping out for a coffee shop! At home, I would recommend taking everything off and doing skin to skin if you can.

Listen to moKee Birth School online on Spotify. Now available as a podcast too!

by Madlena Szeliga

This is the day you've been longing for and fearing the most. You are going to meet your baby, but first - you need to give birth. Things may go just like you planned, but they might also surprise you. Don't worry! Ask all the questions you want. Now, and when the day comes. Read the most questions on labour and answers from Sophie Martin, also known as the Infertile Midwife.

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moKee Birth School online:
preparing for labour

3 min read

by Madlena Szeliga

Usually, when you enter your 3rd trimester you realise your due date is just around the corner. You make all the final decisions about the labour and you try to be as prepared as possible. You can't control everything when it comes to birth, but you can make sure the things you CAN control are all covered.
Here we gathered all the "preparing to labour" related questions, our participants asked during the latest Q&A session at moKee Birth School Online. Sophie Martin, qualified midwife (aka The Infertile Midwife) answered them all for you.

It is really brilliant- start at 35/6 weeks. Massage skin between vagina and anus- get any natural based oil (coconut, olive etc) and put thumbs in and stretch it gently out. It is fantastic at reducing the bigger, 3rd, 4th degree tears.

It is similar to Epino. It’s a ball that you put in the vagina and it’s to try and stretch the perineum, to reduce tears. We don’t specifically recommend them – there’s no evidence to say they work. Anecdotally, many women have found them useful.

This is popular at the moment - it is suggested that eating 6 or 7 dates a day at the end of pregnancy, might help ripen the cervix. You can eat dates in loads of forms, smoothie, date bars etc Although there hasn’t been lots of evidence to support this, it is growing in popularity.

The midwife will be feeling your tummy at every appointment in the 3rd trimester and will be able to tell you.

When the baby is lying across your tummy this is transverse. In early pregnancy- it doesn’t matter what position your baby is in. But if you are towards the pregnancy the end then we want to try and get the baby to be head down. An External Cephalic Version (ECV) is where a midwife or Dr will try and turn the baby into the head-down position. They are generally safe procedures but needs individual assessment as to whether this is suitable for you and your baby. If your baby is breech, then is may be offered to you.

Unlikely if the head is engaged – always a small chance, as babies can do weird and wonderful things, but very unlikely.

Ideally, you want the baby at the front of the tummy. So my top tip is to stop slouching. The back is the heaviest part of the baby, so if you slouch the back comes to your back. UFO – Upright, forward, open will be your mantra! You can get a chair with no arms on it, turn it around and sit backwards. Or scrubbing the floor position – (you don’t actually scrub the floor!) But get on hands and knees, gravity will pull baby forward. Breaststroke swimming can help.

by Madlena Szeliga

Usually, when you enter your 3rd trimester you realise your due date is just around the corner. You make all the final decisions about the labour and you try to be as prepared as possible. Read the most common questions (and the answers) on preparing for labour.

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moKee Birth School online:
questions and answers on pregnancy

3 min read

by Madlena Szeliga

When pregnant - especially for the first time - everything is new. You feel so many things for the first time, not only the baby's little kicks. Some of those experiences can be alarming, some of them may cause a lot of discomfort. There are tests, and measurements, and appointments, and weeks, and dates. And many, many questions.

Here we gathered all pregnancy-related questions, our participants asked during latest Q&A session at moKee Birth School Online. Sophie Martin, qualified midwife (aka The Infertile Midwife) answered them all for you.

Midwives recommend the left side because you don’t end up squashing your big blood vessels. It is not the end of the world if you lay on your right, the most important thing to remember is not to lay flat on your back.

This is a bacteria that grows in women’s vaginas and ordinarily doesn’t cause any problems. The tests are not usually offered on the NHS and that’s because it only tells you if you had it on the day you did the test- the bacteria is transient. Sometimes you have it and sometimes you don’t. Some people will choose to do a test privately, but always remember the result are only telling you whether you had GBS on the day you took the test. So it really is a personal choice if you want to test for it. It can be picked up accidentally- a swab for any reason, in your urine for instance.

You still have got plenty of time to get the injection- it is really common the UK- it is actually for the baby, when they are born they are vulnerable for whooping cough and don’t get a vaccine until 8 weeks old. If you have the vaccine, you make antibodies which are then passed on to the baby to give them some protection until they get their own vaccination.

Main growth happens in third trimester and we don’t measure tummies until at least 26 weeks. So having a check up at 29 weeks is fine. Pay attention to your movements as that is the most important way of knowing how well your baby is. If you are worried about your babies movements, please contact your midwife.

In the UK we just do 12 weeks scan and 20 weeks scan. No need for another scan unless there are any concerns about your baby from the tummy measurements. Some parents opt to get private scans and that is ok.

The top number, the systolic should be between 90 - 140 - more than 140 it is worrying. And bottom number - diastolic - should be between 50 - 90. Your midwife should be checking this at every appointment.

Anything below the 10th centile is small. We know that babies come in all shapes and sizes. So as long as you measure between 10th and 95th centile we consider that to be normal. The femur is the thigh bone.

We want your baby to be showing a continuous growth velocity. If the growth becomes accelerated, it would be recommended to have a scan. Remember that babies come in all shapes and sizes. Usually you’re growing a baby that the right for you, unless you have diabetes or other pregnancy complications. If your midwife is worried about your tummy measurements she will make the appropriate referral to get this checked out.

There is no set number of movements- whatever is normal for your baby. People usually feel movement around 20 weeks, around 24 weeks you’d feel every day. By the third trimester, there is an established pattern. Please don’t compare to previous pregnancies or your friends. Some people with an anterior placenta feel it loads but others don’t feel it quite so much. If you are concerned please contact your maternity unit.

When you are feeling kicks in your vagina, that can sometimes be a sign the baby is breech. At your next appointment ask your midwife to feel for the babies position. It is not concerning for the baby to be breech at this stage, as they have lots of time to turn.

Your baby doesn’t breathe in the womb, so the heart has holes in to bypass the lungs. Although the lungs get some blood so they can continue to grow. But if you take ibuprofen whilst pregnant it could cause the holes in the heart to close early. Please don’t take any whilst you are pregnant.

It is pain in your hips and your back. Relaxin is a great hormone that builds up during pregnancy and you also have progesterone - it makes all your ligaments loose and floppy but also can be painful. There’s a great website, Fit for pregnancy - it’s made by the women’s health physios of the UK – it’s NHS recommended and has got some great advice. Support belts work best when they are fitted by a physio. It is important to try and keep legs together rather than abducted. When getting out of the car take out both legs at the same time.

This is hard to assess - if you are worried call your midwife.

When the placenta is sat on top of the cervix this is known as placenta praevia. Sometimes it will be fully over it or just a little bit. If it is fully coving cervix it is unlikely to move at this stage. You will have scans to check the position of the placenta. With placenta praevia, the only option is for caesarean section.

Obstetric Cholestasis is a liver condition of pregnancy. It doesn’t usually have a physical rash, but the symptoms are extreme itching. Particularly on the palms of your hands and soles of your feets. If you have pregnancy rash, see your GP.

You can help this by not lying on you back and not slouching, however this is difficult to assess virtually, so please contact your maternity unit.

This is hard, as there isn’t always a cure. Encouraging the baby to move to a different position by laying on your side may help.

Heartburn is hard! It’s fine to take Rennies, Gaviscon – take them if you need to. Spicy and fried foods can make the symptoms worse. Try eating small meals, rather than bigs ones. Don’t eat late at night. And for some people it helps to sleep propped up slightly. Some women swear by milk!

Try and engage your baby, more space under ribs. Sitting on a ball, etc.

by Madlena Szeliga

We gathered all pregnancy-related questions that our participants asked during the latest Q&A session at moKee Birth School Online. The qualified midwife, Sophie Martin, answered to all of them and shared her experience. Read now at moKee's blog!

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moKee Birth School online: how to get your baby to sleep well

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by Suzi Smith

 

Read the blog post or listen to the podcast on Spotify:

Hazel, AKA, TwinningitUK, is a maternity nurse and sleep specialist. Here she gives her tips to getting babies sleeping well.

Get into good habits when you start out, it builds a really strong foundation for babies sleeping well. Hazel is a gentle sleep coach, looking at sleep from an holistic approach; looking at everything that’s going on in the baby’s world and the parent’s family to determine what routine the baby should be in when it comes to sleep.

A lot of parents get worried that their baby is not a ‘normal sleeper’. So, it’s about talking about what is normal and what isn’t. 80% of babies still wake in the night up until 2 years old, so it’s perfectly normal to have a baby who doesn’t sleep through the night. In fact, waking in the night is safe for babies, try and remember this.

Safe sleep advice, how to put a baby to sleep safely

Keeping the baby in the room with you for the first 6 months is advised, it also makes life easier as they’re right next to you. The temperature of the room needs to be between 16-20 degrees. Dress the baby according to the temperature. If it’s a hot day keep the curtains closed all day to keep it cooler. If it is excessively hot, you can open a window but don’t have the baby in line with the draft because the draft will dry their airways out.

In winter, keep the room temperature between 16-20 degrees and this actually feels cold to walk into but it’s how it should be. Layer them, if it gets too warm you strip them off. Sleep bags are available now and are great. Use a 1-1/5 tog in summer and in winter, a tog 2. An empty cot is needed, baby’s cot needs to be completely empty. A blanket can be in there, providing it’s really tucked in at the sides. No decorations or teddys, they are not safe. Ensure that baby’s feet are at the bottom of the cot. They tend to shuffle around, so keep them at the bottom of the cot. Place them on their back when you put them down to sleep. When they start to roll, that’s fine for them to roll onto their front.

The mattress is really important. If you can’t afford a brand new cot, get a new god quality mattress for the baby and it needs to be firm.

Newborn sleeping

The 4th trimester is the first 12 weeks of life with a baby. There is a lot of adjustment going on, humans are the only mammal that is born and helpless and needs their parents 24/7. For the first couple of weeks, allow that time to bond with your baby as much as possible, have lots of skin to skin time, it will reduce their stress levels and help them sleep better.

Babies are born with two fears; fear of falling and the fear of loud noises. Startle reflex is when a baby is falling asleep and then suddenly moves due to either a loud noise or a fear of falling. Swaddling a new baby can be effective if they have a strong startle reflex. This can help them sleep. Until 12 weeks babies don’t produce melatonin, which is the hormone which helps us fall asleep. Babies don’t have that function in the brain to produce that hormone until they are 3 months old. If you have a premature baby, it’s important to work off their corrected age. If a baby is born at 36 weeks, this is 4 weeks early, so they may not start producing melatonin until they are 16 weeks. So work off their corrected age. They don’t know the difference between night and day so it’s parents’ job to teach them.

Up until 6 weeks babies will sleep and go to the loo, that’s pretty much it. You might get 15-20 minutes of awake time, but you won’t get much out of them other than that, so expect them to sleep a lot.

If however your baby is sleeping continuously and not feeding well or not producing 6-8 wet nappies a day then speak with you Health Visitor or midwife.

 

6 weeks

At 6 weeks babies have a growth spurt so they can tend to get irritated towards the end of the day. Their calorie intake needs are increasing. You might find that they cluster feed if you are breastfeeding (short bursts of frequent feeding) as they are needing more milk and cluster feeding will help to increase your milk supply. If you are bottle feeding you may find that they want a higher volume of milk. Let them lead you, this phase will pass.

 

12 weeks

At 12 weeks, you may notice that they are more awake during the day, they are more interested in things around them. You’ll notice a sleep pattern beginning to develop. They’ll have around four naps a day. It’s good to get them into a routine, let baby lead you on this and look out for when they are showing signs of tiredness and how long them can stay awake for.

 

Sleep promotes sleep

Hyperactivity is a sign of extreme exhaustion. Learn your baby’s sleep signs as best as possible. Be responsive to your baby. Babies cry for hunger, tiredness, overtired, if they’re too hot or too cold. Do not judge a baby’s temperature on their hands or feet. Hands and feet are the first things that are cold. Feel the back of their necks to see how hot they are. Are they having enough to drink, have they had enough sleep during the day? Sleep promotes sleep, the more over tired a baby is in the day, the harder it is to sleep in the night. It’s good to teach babies to sleep well in the day so that in the night they have the skills to fall back to sleep independently.

 

Sleep regression

Sleep regression or sleep development happens at around 4 months, 7 months and 12-18 months and it’s when a baby’s sleep pattern changes. At 4 months they become more adult in how they sleep. They’ll fall into different stages of sleep, lighter stages of sleep. They are not used to this so it’s strange for them. They are asleep but they can hear things going into the lighter stages of sleep. Normally this can take a week to two to adjust. White noise is great as it can drown out any outside sound influences. At 7-8 months there is another change. Your baby is learning to roll and baby wants to practice their skills in their cot. They want to practice this at maybe 1am, but don’t worry, this passes. Ways to combat this is to allow them to have lots of tummy time in the day and not in their cot. At 12-18 months stage, when a baby is starting to walk, the baby stands up in the cot and wants to walk around. These are all natural stages of developments and it’s a phase. When this is happening try and support them with giving practice during the day so that at night time they’ve got it out of their system.

Baby sleeping bags, mattresses and lighting

To use a baby sleeping bag or blanket. If you have a baby under 8-9 pounds you need to ensure that the sleep bag is OK for a baby of a certain weight. Make sure it fits nice and snuggly on them and is not pulling up when they shuffle down. You can buy various tog levels for it. Cellular blankets are great. They generally come in one thickness, and work better for newborns. Sleep bags are a great sleep association, when they go into the sleep bags, the babies associate sleep with them, so it makes them ready to go to sleep. Waterproof mattress protectors are great, they are usually breathable so just have a look at when you buy it. When they are waking for the morning, have the room really light. In the evening, have the lights dim. After 12 weeks, as the darkness kicks in it triggers a message to the brain to start melatonin which triggers them to feel sleepy. Red lighting in a nursery is great as it helps babies sleep, but blue lighting is detrimental to a baby’s sleep. It really interrupts their sleep, so look for a red lamp or bulb with a very low wattage.

 

Top Tip

If you’re having issues with moving a baby from you to their sleep space without waking them, to make them feel secure after being moved and so they feel like they are still on you, use a hot water bottle and put it in the Moses basket. Warm the space for a few minutes and then remove it. Then put baby in and put a firm hand on their chest so baby still thinks that you are still there. This works wonders.

by Suzi Smith

Hazel, AKA, TwinningitUK, as the guest of moKee Birth School online shared her experience and advice on how to get the baby to sleep well. Read more on moKee's blog and get a good nights sleep finally by following our tips.

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moKee Birth School online:
guide to breastfeeding

6 min read

by Becca Smith @beccasmith_tomlins

 

Read the blog post or listen to the podcast on Spotify:

How to breastfeed with Sophie Martin, The Infertile Midwife

Don’t put any pressure on yourself to breastfeed, but if you can it is great. The Royal College of Obstetricians and Gynaecologists has said that it is safe to breastfeed during Covid 19; there are lots of benefits to breastfeeding and it is considered safer to continue breastfeeding, rather than to stop at this time.

The benefits of breastfeeding

It is recommended to breastfeed for six months exclusively, this means no water, no juice just breastmilk for the first six months of life. It is recommended to continue alongside food up until the baby is two years old. Culturally it’s rare to see this but it is recommended by WHO. In the UK just 17% of babies are still breastfeeding after three months of age.

The benefits to the baby for breastfeeding are reduced risk of infections and fewer hospital attendances. There is a reduced risk of Sudden Infant Death Syndrome (SIDS). It reduces the risk of childhood leukaemia, diabetes, obesity, asthma, eczema, food allergies and it reduces the risk of cardiac problems later in life.

For mum the benefits are a reduced risk of breast cancer, ovarian cancer, osteoporosis, cardiac problems and obesity. It’s also cheaper and quicker than formula, it’s free!

Positioning

Breastfeeding is a skill and it requires patience and practice. There are two people involved in breastfeeding so you both have to learn the technique together to perfect the latch. Skin to skin is so important for establishing breastfeeding. Undress your baby but it can have a nappy on. Take your bra and top off and be bare chested. Bare skin needs to touch bare skin. It can seem like a lot of effort to undress yourself and the baby for each feed but it is the one thing that can make the biggest difference.

It is super important to be in a comfortable position as you might be there for up to 45 minutes. Use pillows and get comfy as you won’t be able to move much. Have a book and drink nearby as you’re going to need to drink lots of water when breastfeeding.

An acronym will help with remembering the best positioning of the baby- CHIN.

Close - your baby needs to be really close to you, skin to skin. Baby needs to be as close on your breasts as possible. The baby’s chin should be touching your breast before latch.

Head free - in order for baby to have a good latch they need to be able to throw their head back, so support their shoulders and neck but don’t hold their head. If you’re trying to eat and someone is pressing on the back of your head, it’s annoying and harder to eat. So leave the head free to throw it back as they latch on.

In line - the baby’s head has to be in line with their body, the head and shoulders need to straight together. Baby will find it easier to swallow with their head in line with their body, not to the side.

Nose to nipple - baby’s nose needs to be opposite the nipple. The baby’s mouth shouldn’t be opposite the nipple as this will lead to a shallow latch, when ideally we want biggest latch that they can get. The nipple needs to look like it’s going up the nose. Global health media has a great video to showcase this.

Unicef also has a great leaflet called ‘Off to the best start’, see here.

When bay is latched, their cheeks should be nice and round. There should be no dimples and they shouldn’t be sucking in, it’s sign it’s not in the right place.

Feeding the baby in cross cradle is great but you can do the rugby ball position which is where you hold your baby under your arm with cushions. The principles are always the same. Nose to nipple and pointing the nipple up the nose.

Laid back feeding is when you encourage the baby to find the breast themselves. Be skin to skin and put them on your tummy/chest and put a blanket on them and then they start to make their way to the nipple themselves. That’s why nipples are darker than the rest of the body – the baby can see light and dark contrasts.

You will keep the baby warm with skin to skin. But just make sure that you are covering their back with a blanket. Skin to skin helps regulate their breathing too.

Feeding signs

How do you know when your baby is hungry? If your newborn is awake, they usually want to eat. So if they’re awake, try to get them on the breast. They also start sucking their hands which is a sign of hunger. If they lick or smack their lips, it also means that they want to eat as well as if they turn their head, actively looking for the breast.

Crying is the last way that your baby will let you know that they’re hungry. It is much easier to feed your baby when they are calm, so pick your baby up before they start crying. In the night you’ll be sleeping, so the baby will cry to wake you up. It’s not the end of the world, but in the day, look out for the signs.

How often should you feed a newborn baby? Healthy, term babies should be fed 8-10 times in 24 hours. That’s not within the first 24 hours- they are usually sleepy on their first day of life so don’t always feed as much. The most important thing to note is that it’s on demand feeding. There is no set interval for feeding your baby. 8 to 10 times in 24 would be every three hours, but we don’t expect your baby to feed at regular intervals. Don’t make your baby wait to feed them, feed them when they’re hungry. Sometimes they’ll cluster feed and then go a bit longer without one. Make a note of when they’re feeding so that you’re getting those feeds in.

If your breasts are feeling full, you can feed your baby too, it works both ways!

Breastfeeding is all about supply and demand. The more your baby feeds, that sends a message to your brain to tell your body to make more milk. For the first three days, colostrum is made and it’s thick and full of nutrients; we call it liquid gold. By day three, baby’s tummy will have grown and your baby needs more milk. Your body doesn’t know that you need to make that milk until the baby tells the body. This is done by feeding. Around day two your baby will be very hungry and that baby will want to feed all the time. On the morning of day three the baby has fed all night and your breasts are really full. That is called the full milk. It’s got all the nutrients but it’s more runny than the colostrum.

How to know if your baby is getting enough milk?

The urine output is a good way to tell if your baby is feeding enough. You should expect one wet nappy when the baby is one day old, two when two days old, three when three and all the way up until day six when we want six wet nappies per day. A lot of the nappies in the shops have a yellow line which goes down the nappy. It will turn blue when the baby has done a wee. Have a notebook or app and write down every time the baby does a wee too.

Bowl movements are a good sign that baby is eating. Babies should be pooing at least once a day. They can go a day or more without pooing though. It’s the colour of the poo which is most important. Poo is black like tar for the first poo, this is called meconium . By day three it will start to go green which is when the milk comes in. It gets runnier and by day five the poo should be really runny and bright yellow, like mustard. A lot of parents think it’s an upset tummy, but it’s not.

Weight loss is a good indicator as to whether the baby is getting enough milk. Your midwife will weigh your baby at five days old and we expect a small amount weight loss at this time but no more than 8% of their body weight. Don’t panic, your midwife will do a specific plan on what to do to get them back on track if they have lost more than this.

How often the baby is feeding is an indicator of how much they’re getting. If they’re not feeding 8-10 times a day, then they’re not getting enough. If they feed more than 8-10times in 24 hours, it might not also be enough as they’re still hungry. Note how long feeds last too. The length of a feed is a good indicator. Most feeds should be between 5-45 minutes. If it’s longer they may not be getting enough milk.

The sucking pattern of the baby during a feed is also a sign. You shouldn’t hear the baby feed when they feed, you should hear swallowing but not sucking. If this is the case, often the latch is too shallow. Pop a clean finger into the mouth to break the suction and take the baby off. Don’t pull the baby off the nipple as they have a suction and they’re just going to pull on the nipple and it’s really painful. Please don’t be tempted to let them carry on. You need to unlatch them if it’s not right as your nipples can get really sore. Just start again.

Baby should come off the breast themselves, they often unlatch or fall asleep. Once they’ve stopped remove them from the breast.

The shape of the nipple after the feed is a good indicator on the latch and how much milk the baby is getting. The nipple should be nice and round, looking the same as before. In a shallow latch the nipple will look like it’s been pinched, or like a brand new lipstick. This is not how it should be.

Hand expressing

This is when you squeeze milk out of your breast by hand. If you need to express milk in the first few days, don’t use a breast pump, as there’s not enough milk. If you have a blocked milk duck, hand expressing will help. Think of your breast as a muscle; you need to warm up your breast. Have a bath or a shower or use a hot compress. Massage the breast too with your knuckles. Gently massage towards the nipple. Do it all the way round your breast to warm it up. After a few minutes you can put your hand in a c shape and put it 2-3 cm away from the nipple and then squeeze, a few times. Don’t squeeze hard and keep going until you see droplets of milk. Be patient. When it starts flowing keep squeezing until it slows down and stops. Don’t squeeze the nipple; the milk ducts are not in the nipple, they’re in the breast tissue.

Then move your hands to a different position until it comes out and then stops. Keep doing this until you’ve done the whole of the breast. The more you stimulate the breasts, the more milk you produce. A lot of women will start hand expressing from 36 weeks. You can freeze it and save it for baby once they are born.

Storing the breast milk is easy, it can stay out for 6 hours, in the fridge for 6 days, don’t put it in the door of the fridge as it’s slightly warmer. It can then stay for 6 months in the freezer and always label with the date you expressed it.

Common problems

Sore nipples are caused by a shallow latch, so the baby is sucking on the nipple. They need to be sucking on the breast not the nipple. Treat the sore nipples with nipple creams. Breast milk is also amazing to help heal, so put it on your nipple! Getting air to your nipples can be great too. Always sort the problem with the latch, sucking on the end rather than on the breast. Work hard to put nose to nipple, make sure baby is reaching up and over the nipple.

Engorged breasts are when breasts have got overfull which again could be due to a poor latch. They get hard and sore and look shiny. You might get mastitis, if you don’t treat it. Empty your breast fully every time you feed. Give the baby one feed on one breast, it must be fully drained before moving on to the second breast. Feel your breast as it should feel soft after. Don’t offer baby a second beast if you haven’t finished the first one.

Mastitis is an inflammation or infection in the breasts. You can see a hot patch on the breast- bright red and warm to touch. You need to keep feeding and get the milk flowing. A hot compress or a shower can help and get the baby to pump where the red patch is, to empty the problem. If you have a temperature or feel flu like, get antibiotics to stop the infection. Keep feeding as you’ll make the situation worst if you don’t.

Thrush- you can get thrush in your breasts and this is a shooting pain which you’ll get it in both breasts. After a feed you might notice your baby’s tongue is a little bit white. If baby’s tongue is still very white a few hours later, you might have thrush. It’s not harmful for you or the baby but get the treatment as it can be painful for you. See your GP.

by Becca Smith @beccasmith_tomlins

It is recommended to breastfeed for six months exclusively, this means no water, no juice just breastmilk for the first six months of life. It is recommended to continue alongside food up until the baby is two years old. Read our blog post and use tips & guidance from Sophie Martin, known as The Infertile Midwife.

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moKee Birth School online:
how to have a healthy pregnancy

4 min read

by Suzi Smith  

How to have a healthy pregnancy with Marie Louise, The Modern Midwife

It’s really important to look after yourself during this time. If you have anxiety it can affect you and your baby. Sometimes it can be difficult sleeping, struggling to eat, so here are some tips on how to have a healthy pregnancy.

Everyone has an opinion on what you should and shouldn’t be doing during pregnancy. A lot of the time people aren’t trained to give advice, so it’s important to note the advice politely but then double check that it’s correct advice by asking your Midwife.

Your nutrition, the food you put in your body, the chemicals you’re exposed and stress, all tell your baby a story of the world that they’re being born into. Food goes into the amniotic fluid, so it’s been proven that babies who are exposed to foods in the womb, often like the food once they try it. So be mindful of what you’re putting into your body, but don’t fixate on it.

Your need for micronutrients increase during pregnancy but you don’t need to eat for two. This is a really common myth which you should ignore. You should be taking supplements, ideally take a food grown supplement because it’s thought that the body absorbs it better than man made supplements. Ensure that you take vitamin D, no matter the season. Pregnant women do need to take it daily and in winter it is more important.

All pregnant women should take folic acid for the first three months of pregnancy only, this is when the baby’s spine is forming so the most amount of growing and developing happens. If your baby grows as it does in the first three months throughout pregnancy it would be 1.5tonnes. Pregnancy supplements are really great as they include all of the vitamins that you need but you can buy them individually.

It’s important to get a really balanced diet, so know your food groups. You need to make sure that you’re having protein with every meal, they include amino acids. They are the building blocks for life. If you are vegan, you need to pay attention to this. Good sources of protein include chickpeas, lentils, protein from nuts and remember that you can eat nuts during pregnancy, unless you’re allergic. Lean meats are a great source of protein as are fish and eggs. Get them in every meal if you can.

Carbohydrates are important when it comes to your diet. You can get carbs from vegetables, fruit, brown bread, pasta and oats. Ideally it’s good to avoid white or processed bread because they don’t have many nutrients. Opt for wholegrain carbs and whole grain breads. Try not to cut out food groups during pregnancy and especially after birth as they are great for energy.

Healthy fats are found in natural food whereas trans fats are found in biscuits for example, so opt for natural fats. Olive oil, nuts, seeds and avocados all contain healthy fats. You can also use these ingredients to make a smoothie.

Ensure that you’re well hydrated, it’s so important. You need to be drinking at least two litres per day. It’s great for your whole body. Your blood volume increases by 50% in pregnancy and you have more hormones in your body which can increase headaches, so drink lots of water to prevent this.

Try to avoid take outs! Make your favourite take outs at home with natural ingredients so that you avoid food colourings, bad fats etc… Try making fish and chips without the batter, create a Chinese takeaway by seasoning lots- get adventurous!

Bulk cooking is great to do ahead of your baby coming as it will be hugely helpful once you come home. If you have time, cook lots of healthy hearty meals and freeze them. It won’t as much of pleasure to cook when you have a newborn.

Moneywise, the healthier options of organic are often more expensive and now there’s lots of financial pressure so make sure that you check to see if you’re eligible for any food grants during pregnancy to help.

Vitamin B12 is essential to take if you’re vegan or veggie. You can get it in marmite and eggs but you can get little drops that you put under your tongue.

Iron rich foods are important to ensure that you’re getting enough iron. That’s why Midwives do your blood tests at 28 weeks, they give you a Full blood Count. They are looking for your iron level and antibodies. Dark leafy green veg are a great source of iron. Make sure you have iron rich foods with vitamin C as this helps with the absorption. Take them with a glass of orange juice and ensure not with milk as it actually prevents the absorption.  

It’s a myth that you can’t eat runny eggs in pregnancy. Guidelines used to say that you couldn’t but research has proven that it’s safe as long as they have the red lion stamp on the egg.

Diet can help with constipation, making sure that you’re having enough fibre. It’s so important and chia seeds, flack seeds , fruits, wholegrain carbs, all of these will help getting your bowel going.

When you eat a healthy diet it can increase and enhance your mood. It does make a difference to how you feel so please take note of what you’re eating. However, remember not to become obsessed with your diet. Follow the 80:20 rule; 80% of the time eat as healthy as you can and then 20% of the time have a break and fully enjoy your biscuits, chocolate and treats!

When it comes to have a alcohol, it’s up to you. Know that whatever you put in your body, it will affect your baby, there is no known safe amount of alcohol to drink but it is common for pregnant women to have the odd glass. Current NHS guidelines say to avoid altogether but do what works for you.

Body scanning is a good way to check in with your body through pregnancy so that you really understand all of the changes that are happening. Do it everyday maybe when you’re in the shower and just focus on every part of your body to see how it feels. It will help you focus on relaxing parts of your body.

Lastly, exercise. A bit of stretching and yoga is great for blood flow and it’s great for mental health and a way to look after your body. Women who eat well, and exercise regularly have a reduced rate of c sections. Be mindful of getting some sort of exercise in, even a few stretches can be great.

by Suzi Smith  

It’s really important to look after yourself during this time. If you have anxiety it can affect you and your baby. Sometimes it can be difficult sleeping, struggling to eat, so here are some tips on how to have a healthy pregnancy.

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How to choose the perfect baby name

3 min read

by Becca Smith @beccasmith_tomlins

A lot of girls growing up have a list. A list of names that they would call their children. Seems bizarre but I always had a mental list of all the baby names I loved. This would change from year to year but it’s something I talked about with my friends and I remember saying to them that they couldn’t ‘steal’ my names!

Well, when the moment came to actually choose a name for a real baby it was hard. We didn’t know the sex of our babies until they were born so we had a list of both girl and boy names which my husband and I would go back and forth on. One day we’d love a particular name and the next it would be binned because it reminded us of someone or something we disliked. It was only until we actually met both our boys that we decided on their names. Our first born is Rupert Fox and our second, Arlo Henry. Names are so personal but a few years on we still love them and they haven’t dated.

So here are a few tips from what I learnt when deciding on the perfect baby name!

1) Research

It’s important to do your homework. I’d recommend getting a baby name book- I found this so helpful and it was nice to relax and sit down and flick through the A-Z of baby names – you come across some really interesting ones! I also simply googled a lot of baby names and weirdly when I was reading the newspaper I’d really take note of the names!

2) Who else has that name?

Now it’s important to make sure you think about the people in your family and friendship circle. Who else has that name you have set your heart on? Would they mind? Would you mind?

3) Family traditions?

Now if you have a family tradition when it comes to names it’s important to have a chat with your partner and family if you’re going to continue the family tradition! My husband’s dad has the same name as him and to be honest it didn’t even cross my mind to speak to them and see if they’d mind if we didn’t keep this tradition going! We decided to choose our own names and to be honest it was more out of practicality- having three people with the same could become very confusing!

4) Family history

If you’re looking for something a bit different why don’t you think about your heritage and if there are any interesting names you think could work for you? I’ve got some German in me so I definitely looked at any popular names in Germany that could work. My son’s name, Rupert is actually the German equivalent of Rupert, so it seemed to fit for us.

5) Spelling

If you’re keen for a particular name but think it’s too common why don’t you add your own twist and change the spelling? Megan could be changed to Meghan, Sarah to Sara etc.

6) Nicknames

When thinking of a name it’s important to think what nicknames might come from it. If you don’t like the shortened version of a name then you should probably find another name as they will probably be called the shortened version by friends etc.

7) Does it work with the surname?

Check that it works with your surname! Does it rhyme?! Or does it form a silly phrase when said together?! It’s important!

8) Siblings

Now, if you want to literally ‘Keep up with the Kardashians’ then you could follow them in calling all of your brood with names that start with the same letter. But if you fancy mixing it up I think it’s important to make sure you are happy with how they all sound together. If your daughter is called Rosie and you name you son Jim, you will (if old enough!) be reminded of a children’s TV programme popular in the UK decades ago! If you name your daughter Cher and your son Sony then think about what that will make people think!

9) Will it work when they are a grown up?!

Baby names can be seriously cute but they have to live with them forever (usually), so think about if it will be serious enough for when they are grown up?! Think about if your son or daughter were to become the Prime Minister!

10) Meet them first and then decide

Lots of people have to test out names on their babies until they find one that fits. We did that with our second. We were set on a name but when he came out he just didn’t look like it- so my husband literally scrolled through A-Z of baby names and came across Arlo (again, he had previously vetoed it) and I pounced on it. He looked like an Arlo and my husband soon came around after he had seen me give birth!

 

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A lot of girls growing up have a list. A list of names that they would call their children. Seems bizarre but I always had a mental list of all the baby names I loved. This would change from year to year but it’s something I talked about with my friends and I remember saying to them that they couldn’t ‘steal’ my names!

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